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Why do you have to wait until January 1st to make a commitment for change? I heard a speaker recently who mentioned that there is a lovely island out in the middle of the ocean that holds all of your dreams. He said it’s called “someday isle.” Some day I’ll lose those extra fifteen pounds, some day I’ll quit smoking, and some day I’ll stop dating jerks and find a real love. Unfortunately, someday isle does not exist because it is always some time in the future.

People use New Year’s resolutions to give them an excuse to pig out over the holidays, overindulge on credit cards and sleep in late instead of hitting the gym. When you do this, you are only reinforcing the unhealthy behaviors and it becomes even harder to change it when you wake up with your gluttonous hangover on New Year’s Day. You start beating yourself up for your actions and dreaming again of someday isle, but you never seem to get there.

Research states that most people abandon their New Years’ resolutions by January 31. The reason people give up so quickly is because they know that the trip to someday isle takes some work. They focus on the end result instead of the journey, and someday isle is so much more exotic than it turns out to be in reality. They do not lose weight fast enough or realize that giving up that cigarette is more painful than the poison that floods into their bodies. If you live thinking that some day things will be different, even when they do get better, there will always be more to want or need. Sadly, the reason people overeat, smoke and destroy their bodies is because they are looking for something to make them feel good. The short-term benefit always wins.

So what if you stopped waiting for something to happen out there and just started with feeling better inside right now? You can feel good about taking care of your body every day without worrying about when you see the results. Have gratitude for the meal you are about to eat instead of calculating the calories, and enjoy making your mortgage payment because you feel fortunate that you can afford to own a home. Instead of focusing on how bad things are and reaching for a drink or a smoke for comfort, reach out to someone in your life that needs a hug. You’ll discover that you have everything you have right now to make you happy if you open up to it.

The results you see in your life are just feedback, reflecting the quality of your past thoughts. You can start thinking differently today that will change your outlook and the things that you attract in your life. Focusing daily on gratitude can help flood the mind with supportive thoughts, allow you to enjoy the life you have now and steer your mind to create more of what you are grateful for regardless of external situations. You do not have to wait to feel good!

So, on January 1st instead of planning a trip to someday isle, why not stay here and enjoy the ride of your life? It isn’t bad to have goals, but they work against you when they drag you down because you haven’t reached them yet. If you give yourself a break and be grateful for everything you have now, the reasons for overindulging go away. Ultimately, you will lose those fifteen pounds, quit smoking and attract the life of your dreams because you finally let go. Make every day a vacation on your dream isle and you will never need anything else to be fulfilled.

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